Where Is the Divorce Support in Our Churches?

Only 10% or less of churches offer ongoing divorce support. That broke my heart.

A couple of weeks ago, I learned something that absolutely broke my heart: only 10% or less of churches offer any kind of divorce support. I’m not talking about a sermon on forgiveness or a quick prayer during service. I mean real, ongoing support—people who have walked through divorce and can walk alongside those who are hurting.

The question kept rolling around in my mind: How can we get our churches to have support for those who are going through or have gone through divorce?

When the Church Misses the Pain

As I’ve talked with so many women walking through divorce, I’ve heard story after story that makes my heart ache. Many have been told to “stay and pray,” to keep believing that God will restore their marriage—even when they’re in relationships filled with emotional, spiritual, or even physical abuse. I have to be honest: I don’t understand how the church, knowing the truth of what these women are enduring, can encourage them to stay in harm’s way.

God values life, safety, and peace. He never asks us to remain in bondage to abuse or to stay in situations that destroy the very person He created us to be.

“Be the Change”

In the middle of my frustration, God whispered to my heart: “Be the change you want to see.” So I did.

I created spaces where women could find hope, healing, and community—without shame, judgment, or fear. That’s why I started my Hope & Healing Facebook Group, my Faith-Based Divorce Coaching Program, and my Free Workshops. These spaces remind women that divorce is not the end of their story. It’s a chapter, not the whole book.

The Reality We Can’t Ignore

One out of every two marriages ends in divorce. That means the pain of a broken covenant is sitting in our pews, teaching our classes, singing on our worship teams, and quietly crying in the parking lot after church. We can’t ignore it anymore.

Turning My Mess Into My Message

I know this pain because I’ve lived it. But I also know the freedom that comes when you let God rebuild your life from the inside out. I am a faith-based speaker and divorce recovery coach, and I am living proof that healing is possible. God has turned my pain into purpose, my heartbreak into hope, and my story into a testimony that sets others free.

You Can Heal and Rebuild

If you’re walking through divorce right now, please know—you are not alone, and this is not the end of your story. I’d love to walk alongside you.