19 Feb When “Forever” Falls Apart: Finding God in the Pain of Divorce
I never thought I’d be here. Divorce wasn’t part of my plan. I had done all the “right” things—loved, sacrificed, prayed—but somehow, my marriage still crumbled. I remember sitting alone in the silence of my home, staring at the life I no longer recognized, wondering, God, how did I get here?
The pain of divorce is a unique kind of heartbreak. It’s not just the loss of a relationship; it’s the shattering of dreams, the unraveling of an identity, and sometimes, the deep questioning of faith.
If you’re in that place right now—feeling broken, abandoned, or even ashamed—I want you to know God sees you. He is not done with you.
God is Near to the Brokenhearted
One of the most comforting scriptures I clung to during my darkest days was:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18
At first, I didn’t feel Him near. All I felt was emptiness. But looking back, I realize He was there in every tear I cried, in every moment I thought I couldn’t go on. He was there in the friend who called at just the right time. He was there in the quiet whispers of hope that nudged me forward.
How to Start Healing
Healing doesn’t happen overnight. But I promise you, God has not abandoned you. Even in this pain, He is working.
If you’re wondering how to move forward when everything feels shattered, here are three things that helped me begin my healing journey:
1. Give Yourself Permission to Grieve
It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to cry, to feel angry, to mourn what was lost. Healing starts when we stop pretending we’re fine and allow ourselves to process the pain.
2. Stay Close to God, Even When It’s Hard
There were days I didn’t feel like praying. But even in my silence, I learned that God was still listening. Keep seeking Him, even when it feels like He’s far away. He promises to draw near to those who seek Him (James 4:8).
3. Surround Yourself with the Right People
Healing isn’t meant to happen in isolation. Find a support system—trusted friends, a faith-based divorce group, or a counselor—who will walk with you, encourage you, and remind you of the truth when you forget it.
Hope for Your Future
If you’re in the middle of the storm right now, I want you to know—this is not the end of your story. God is still writing. There is hope, there is healing, and there is a future filled with joy waiting for you.
One day, you’ll look back and see how God used even this heartbreak to bring you closer to Him, to strengthen you, and to lead you into a life more beautiful than you imagined.
Until then, keep holding on. Keep trusting. Keep believing. You are not alone.
If this post resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments. And if you’re looking for a community of women walking this same journey, I invite you to join my Facebook group, Hope and Healing After Divorce. Let’s walk this road together. 💛
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