When the Spiral Hits: What Do You Turn To?

Emotional Triggers After Divorce

You know the moment.
That split second when something—maybe a memory, a song, a photo, a comment—triggers a wave of emotion that you didn’t see coming.

Suddenly, you’re spiraling.

The thoughts flood in.
The sadness crashes down.
The questions start again: “Why me? Why did this happen? Will I ever feel normal again?”

And in those moments, we all turn to something.

The Real Question Is: What are you turning to?

• Maybe you isolate. You pull away from everyone and disappear for a while.
• Maybe you scroll mindlessly through social media, hoping the distraction will numb the pain.
• Maybe you pour another glass of wine, thinking, “Just one more. I deserve this.”

And listen—I’ve been there.
I’ve turned to some of those things, too.

But what I’ve learned is this: Those things don’t heal us.
They numb us, sure.
They delay the pain.
But they don’t move us forward.

What does move us forward?
Having tools.
Having truth.
And having someone who knows how to walk with you through it all.

When You Have Tools, You Have Hope

I remember the days when triggers used to take me out for hours—sometimes days.
A wave of grief would hit, and I didn’t know how to swim through it.
I’d either distract, avoid, or shut down.

But when I started learning how to redirect my thoughts, everything began to shift.

What if, instead of isolating, you called a trusted friend or sat in silence with God?

What if, instead of scrolling, you opened your journal and poured it all out on paper?

What if, instead of pouring another drink, you took a walk, put on worship music, or picked up the phone and said, “I need prayer”?

None of this is about shame.
It’s about recognizing that what you reach for in the storm either grounds you—or keeps you stuck.

You Don’t Have to Figure It Out Alone

One of the greatest gifts I received during my healing journey was having a coach.

Someone who saw the triggers coming before I did.
Someone who gave me practical tools when my emotions felt too heavy.
Someone who reminded me that I wasn’t crazy—I was just human and hurting.

And now, I get to do that for other women.

If you’ve been stuck in the spiral, if you’ve been reaching for things that leave you feeling worse instead of better, I want you to know this:

You are not alone. There is a better way. And healing is possible.

Want to Move Forward With Freedom?

I’d love to invite you to book a free clarity call with me.

We’ll talk about what’s weighing you down right now, what keeps triggering you, and what kind of support would truly help.
No pressure. No perfect words needed. Just a real conversation—and I’ll even pray over you before we end.

🎯 Click here to book your free clarity call

You don’t have to do this alone.
Let’s walk through it together—with faith, with tools, and with a whole lot of grace.